From Charm to Harm- The Dark Side of History’s Biggest Playboys
There is a book under the title “From Charm to Harm: And Everything Else in Between With A Narcissist”. In this book you will find some insights into playboys, who we know by the name “narcissists”. They tend to abuse people when they are under the influence of drugs and get out of control. Their abuse causes massive trouble to the victims that ruin their lives.
So, in this article, we are going to talk about this book, how it is helping people and how you can benefit from the content in the book.
Who Are Narcissists?
If you want to understand the content in the book “charm to harm”, you need to understand who are narcissists first because the entire book is based on these people.
Narcissistic people usually have a very high self-esteem and self-importance. These type of people have a personality of being acknowledged. They force people with their ideas and thoughts and force people to accept them. Narcissists usually seek a very high level of attention and want to be acknowledged, accepted, and validated by people even if their thoughts or actions are totally wrong.
In order to force people to accept their thoughts, narcissists end up abusing people. They abuse people, do violence, and force normal people to accept their values, thoughts, and actions by hook or crook. That’s why narcissists become anti-social elements and are not considered good in a reputed society. That’s why we also call them playboys.
From Charm to Harm
The narcissists are usually charming in the beginning and become harming with time, that is why we call them “From Charm to Harm”. In this book, the author has explained how the behaviour of narcissists change from charm to harm at different stages.
- Charm and Manipulation: Initially charismatic to draw people in.
- Gaslighting: Making victims doubt their reality.
- Devaluation: Criticizing and belittling victims to undermine their confidence.
- Projection: Accusing others of their own faults.
- Lack of Empathy: Indifference to others’ feelings.
- Control and Domination: Using tactics to dominate and control their victims.
- Discarding: Abruptly ending relationships once they lose interest or control.
Where Can I Find Narcissists?
We can find narcissists everywhere. It can be a public figure, celebrity, our relationship partner, or even our relative. If you want to to find narcissists, you can find them in the public and on social media too. Even a politician or someone famous can be a narcissist.
Here are some of the most common places where we can easily find narcissists:
- Personal relationships
- Workplaces
- Social media
- Leadership positions
- Public figures
- Community organizations
- Educational settings
- Service professions
- Online platforms
Conclusion
If you think that someone you are in touch with is a potential narcissist or if he/she is showing signs of being a narcissist, we suggest that you do these things- If you cannot accept something they are doing, tell them immediately and create some space. Stop hanging out too much and limit your time that you spend with them. Decrease your time with them gradually. If they get provoked by something, don’t react.